epoll: switch epoll_object to using file pointers

Holding filerefs causes close() to be delayed indefinitly in case
the user "forgets" to EPOLL_CTL_DEL the file before close().

Signed-off-by: Avi Kivity <avi@cloudius-systems.com>
Signed-off-by: Pekka Enberg <penberg@cloudius-systems.com>